My second big chop

I have been a long time natural. I stopped putting chemical relaxers in my hair way back in 1998. One day, I was like why am I spending my whole Saturday in a salon to have my hair relaxed? I never looked back. I am grateful I did. Back then there was no you tube videos or few natural hair forums. I got to know my hair again. Taking my time and relearning what worked on my hair.

After I gave birth to Jacob, I kept feeling the urge to cut my hair off, again. Start from scratch. My 40's has been filled with a lot of changes for me. Most good yet some deeply painful. Finally, one Saturday the feeling to cut my hair became too strong to avoid. I told Sean to cut it off.

All the heavy stuff I had gone through just fell away. I felt lighter. This is not to say I don't miss my thick hair. I did. It still felt right to cut my hair.

As the months passed, it felt great to just get up and go. To look at my face in a different way with my hair was short.

Cutting my hair, as I began to release more weight, gave me extra confidence that I needec.  After I had Jake, I look at pictures and go is that me? Now, I look at myself and see me.

 I feel being happy with the way you look is important. The hair that I have been given is beautiful. I embrace it fully.



Anonymous said...

First, Shell, you look gorgeous, as usual, regardless of how long or short your hair is.

Second, you and I have had this conversation. I have always found myself Divinely Guided to cut my hair sometime after the Sun enters Virgo. I was originally going to have my head shaved bald, but with my schedule the last few months, that went way by the wayside.

And it might be a chronological age thing, as I began to feel this way about cutting my hair after I became 40 years-of-age, I began wanting to have my hair cut, buzzed, or shaved.

I might still do it, but have not decided, yet.

Thank you for another insightful post. Many Blessings.

Maria Y said...

You look beautiful!